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How To Deal With Social Anxiety

By Stephen Boylan Dip Couns, PG Cert MHCBT, REG MBACP

September 2, 2018

Anxiety

How To Deal With Social Anxiety 

Social Anxiety is one of those problems that appear all the time and which are extremely hard to deal with. But even if it seems like that type of thing which will never go away, there’s no need to worry.

With the right approach, you will not have a problem eliminating Social Anxiety from your life. You just have to understand that anxiety comes and goes, you just need to move onward with your life the best way that you can.

It will provide you with a great experience, and it can bring in front rewarding results all the time, so try to consider all of that in the end.

When Do You Encounter Social Anxiety

Social Anxiety behaves differently for each person. Some people encounter it when they speak in front of a group. Others deal with it when talking with strangers.

There are other situations when you encounter Social Anxiety, such as answering the phone, eating in front of others, talking to someone that you like or find attractive, speaking with authoritative figures or being at the centre of attention.

Believe it or not, a lot more people than you might imagine deal with Social Anxiety every day, and you really have to do everything in your power to deal with this type of issue.

It’s always a very good idea to take your time as you figure out in which situations you deal with Social Anxiety. Only based on that will you be able to figure out what happens and what situations you are dealing with at this time.

In the end that can be extremely helpful and rewarding, so you might as well want to consider all that stuff.

Identifying Social Anxiety 

Although we believe that Social Anxiety is just a feeling, this is a combination of behaviours, physical sensations, thoughts, and feelings.

The thing to keep in mind here is that SA is mostly accompanied by physical feelings like crying and trembling, among many others.

You always want to see whether you have a safety, avoidance or escape behaviour. This sort of thing is usually exuded by people with Social Anxiety just because they can’t stand the idea of having a lot of people around.

So they try to express themselves in various ways and that on its own can be incredibly interesting and unique in its own right.

Is It Possible To Live With Social Anxiety  

Even if it would be great to eliminate Social Anxiety from your life, you can live with it if you want to. But this will mostly put you into a state where you don’t really trust other people, and you don’t understand exactly what approach you need to consider with all of that.

Ideally, you want to make sure that you eliminate Social Anxiety from your life in a meaningful manner. The faster you do that, the better your life will be.

That doesn’t mean it will be an easy thing to do. But it will be better than fearing people all the time and not knowing what you have to do to reach the best possible outcome.

Exposure Therapy

Exposure therapy is maybe one of the best methods that you can use in this regard. What makes exposure therapy stand out is that it always pushes things to the next level and it makes the experience very rewarding.

The thing to keep in mind is that exposure therapy offers you a way to identify and also address any of those things that end up bringing Social Anxiety in your life.

Create a list of anxiety-provoking situations, and then you have to address all of them the best way that you can. Things like this are not that easy to do, and while it can take a while to adjust and adapt all of this, the outcome can indeed be among some of the best that you can find out there.

Of course, it’s a good idea to have a therapist that tackles all these problems at a professional level. This way you can immediately assess any problems, and as time goes by, you will find it easier and better to tackle all this stuff on your own.

Ideally, you want to have someone that offers you the support you need and which you talk to. That always helps.

Thanks to exposure therapy you also get to meet new people gradually. You get to eliminate that fear of talking with people, and in the end that can be very helpful.

You won’t fear people anymore, and it’s stuff like that which will bring in front rewarding benefits all the time, so try to consider all of that if you want amazing benefits all the time.

There are also worksheets online that can offer you a way to explore your social anxiety. But yes, the idea of finding your weak spots and addressing them gradually is one of the best methods you can use when it comes to Social Anxiety, so just consider all of that if you can.

Make Sure Your Goals Are Objective 

Ideally, you want to take your time and step away from goals that are way too emotional and which mean a lot to you.

The best way to eliminate Social Anxiety for some people is to focus on creating objective behavioural goals. It’s important to focus solely on your reactions and ignore the reactions from other people.

You want to be assertive and respectful because once you are like that only good results can come your way, which is why you need to eliminate the hassle and evolve everything as much as you can.

If you put a lot of emotion into what you do every day, you will still encounter a lot of Social Anxiety in your life. And that’s why you have to eliminate emotion from your goals.

Once you do that things are a whole lot better and easier, and you can adjust or adapt everything in a professional manner. It’s certainly not the simplest thing that you can do, but if you do it right, it can offer you rewarding results.

Stay Rational 

Remember that no matter what happens, the primary focus is your emotional wellbeing.

The idea here is to do whatever you can in order to stay rational and objective. For example, if you share a speech you have to remember that your audience is not comprised out of professionals or celebrities, they are just people that came to see your speech and learn from that. 

You are the person in control, so that’s the last thing you want to encounter. It’s always a good idea to push the boundaries as you adjust and adapt all of that to suit your needs.

Social anxiety is treatable as long as you put the rational thinking approach into this. Even if it ends up being quite challenging at times, it will offer you some good results and benefits, and that’s what you want to have in the long run.

Behavioural Therapy 

Remember that no matter what happens, the primary focus is your emotional wellbeing. The idea here is to do whatever you can in order to stay rational and objective.

For example, if you share a speech you have to remember that your audience is not comprised out of professionals or celebrities, they are just people that came to see your speech and learn from that.

You are the person in control, so that’s the last thing you want to encounter. It’s always a good idea to push the boundaries as you adjust and adapt all of that to suit your needs.

Social anxiety is treatable as long as you put the rational thinking approach into this. Even if it ends up being quite challenging at times, it will offer you some good results and benefits, and that’s what you want to have in the long run.

Practice Relaxation Exercises  

It may not seem that much, but things like yoga lessons, breathing techniques and relaxing as a whole can pay off a lot.

The idea is that it allows you to take your health to new heights and you can always adjust or adapt all of that to suit your needs in a meaningful way.

It’s a good idea to push the boundaries, but at the same time you should always try to find some spare time for yourself and your family. 

Even if it seems something hard to do, it will be the best way to enjoy some peace and quiet on your own.

Is it possible to get some amazing results from these relaxation techniques? Absolutely, and all you need is a great approach and a predefined schedule.

Ideally, you also want to incorporate 1-2 other people in these activities too. Simply by talking with others as you do the things you love, you will end up removing Social Anxiety from your life, and you can do that gradually, which is a nice thing.

Repeating these exercises and creating a schedule out of everything can pay off a lot.

Change Your Diet 

Let’s face it when you want to remove Social Anxiety the last thing you think about is changing your diet. But yes, your diet can increase the anxiety symptoms.

Alcohol, in particular, can increase anxiety symptoms, same as caffeine or nicotine. As we mentioned earlier, it’s better to find some activities that will keep you happy and which help stay away from any form of anxiety if you can.

Remove Negativity From Your Life

Create a list with negative ideas and outlooks, then make sure you challenge all those negative thoughts. Study and see if these things have a negative impact on your life.

If they do, then this is the best time to step away from all this stuff as you identify the best possible things to do in your day to day life.

What you can do instead is to see the half-full side of your glass. Make sure that you are a more positive person. The more positive you are, the less Social Anxiety you will be dealing with.

People will be impressed and also attracted by your positivity, and you will find it easier to connect and talk with them.

Of course, you do need to decrease your self-focus. Engage your surroundings and try to find a way to eliminate all those problems naturally as you get the best results.

Also, try to avoid putting too much value on what other people say. It’s your life, so you want to live it the way you want. It’s a good idea to listen to advice, but gossip and negativity are things that you really need to avoid the best way that you can.

It’s not easy to have and deal with Social Anxiety in the long run. But there are lots of methods you can use when it comes to eliminating Social Anxiety from your life naturally.

It will take a little while, but it is something that you will enjoy if you do it right. While it’s not entirely simple to approach this, the outcome can shine, so that’s the crucial aspect to consider no matter what.

If you do it right, you will have no problem obtaining great results as you eliminate Social Anxiety from your life. You just need patience and a good strategy or therapy that help you achieve those goals the right way!

Stephen Boylan Dip Couns, PG Cert MHCBT, REG MBACP

About the author

Dear Friend, Stephen Boylan here, I'm the founder of Natrul. My mission and passion is to help you to improve your mental health and well-being. I hope you have found this blog post helpful and if you have any questions please feel free to comment below. I look forward to helping you.

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